Monday, August 13, 2012

Going black and not going back


This is one interesting yet controversial topic today. Literally, it means once a woman who is of a different skin color than black has sexual relations with a black man or series of black men, it becomes overly impossible for her to date a man of a different skin color. There are variations to this saying: Once you go black, we don't want you back, Once you go Asian, you can't go Caucasian and once you go White, everything seems right. Are you laughing too? It's widely believed that black guys have bigger sex tools and more hungry libidos than the white folks. Some would say they show a kind of loving different from what  the white guys have, but all this might be baloney. You should really look before you leap.

Well, I'll only be posting my personal opinion here. You can post yours in the comment box below. First, I think this is just a stereotype. I would agree it could be true at times but the notion isn't exactly correct. I've met white women who having dated black men, said they won't be dating  white men anymore, and black women who have sworn off dating black men. The truth of the matter is that, it all depends on the person and the skin color doesn't really come into place here. The appropriate saying should be: once you date it right, you'll never go wrong. Some women will say the going black and not going back thing stems from the sexual prowess and endowment of the men of African descent, but then aren't there black guys with penises the size of my thumb and white guys whose penises are jumbo sized? Did I hear you say size doesn't matter? We'll leave that for some other day.

Sorry to piss in your cornflakes but your skin color really has nothing to do with who dates you. If girls date you because you're black or white, then you're dating the wrong girls. The first thing to be considered is if he/she is dateable rather than his/her exoticness or libido. It's totally fine if it's just a fling but still, ''once you go black, you can't go back'' isn't exactly very accurate. There are many factors to consider.

Just date it right guys. Going black and not going back is a fetish like some guys not being able to date any girl but Latino girls and some stuck on dating cougars. At the risk of sounding rigid, I'd be the first person to say interracial dating is one of the best things that has happened to the dating world, but if that black guy doesn't treat you well or the white dude takes you for a ride, move on! Don't get caught up in the ''not being able to go back stuff''.

Finally, date the person and not the skin color!

1 comment:

  1. "Once you go brown, you keep coming around" is another one to add to your list. After the age of segregation was over and the racial borders started falling, being trampled down by globalization and sexual revolution, dating out of your racial/ethnic group became less frowned at, which cannot be anything but good. And yet there are always people, who'll find the way to rain on your parade, and by that I mean "racial groupies". The groupies are a special kind of people, who due to many reasons make interracial dating a figment of perverted imagination, obsessing over physical features, and not being able to look beyond that (which was correctly pointed out by the author). Every race or ethnicity has different representatives, and if you build your relationship only on those characteristics, you will surely fail. I agree with the ideas in the post. If you can't go beyond the physique, praising Latino ass or Asian face or black body, etc. as your reasons for liking the person, consult a shrink before you start dating!

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