China River mysteriously turns red!

For a river known as the "golden watercourse," red is a strange color to see.

Yet that's the shade turning up in the Yangtze River and officials have no idea why.

The red began appearing in the Yangtze, the longest and largest river in China and the third longest river in the world, yesterday near the city of Chongquing, where the Yangtze connects to the Jialin River.

The Yangtze, called "golden" because of the heavy rainfall it receives year-round, runs through Chongqing, Southwest China's largest industrial and commercial center, also known as the "mountain city" because of the hills and peaks upon which its many buildings and factories stand.

The red color stopped some residents in their tracks. They put water from the river in bottles to save it. Fishermen and other workers who rely on the river for income kept going about their business,according to the UK's Daily Mail.

While the river's red coloring was most pronounced near Chongqing it was also reported at several other points.

Officials are reportedly investigating the cause.

Is it China's utter disregard for pollution or just some biological reaction coming to play here? What comes to mind is that portion in the Bible which says: ''and their waters was turned into blood and they couldn't drink from it.''

10 Important Money Misconceptions

1.The more money I have, the happier I’ll be.

Let’s ask Howard Hughes, Anna Nicole Smith, John Belushi, Chris Farley, Marilyn Monroe, Michael Jackson, Amy Winehouse, Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin, Kurt Cobain, and Elvis about this one. OK, guys, show of hands… did fame and fortune make you happy?

Happiness comes from liking yourself, something completely unrelated to money. Riches buys recognition, too often confused with validation. But respect, especially self-respect, isn’t for sale.

When you’re on your death-bed, will you be thinking about money? If so, your contribution to the gene pool was negligible. Rather than obsessing about money, think about what really makes you happy. Then make only enough money to take part in those activities. Making more is a waste of the only non-renewable resource you have: your time on the planet.

2. A big income will keep me out of debt.

What’s the difference between someone who makes $50,000 a year with a $100,000 mortgage and someone who makes $500,000 a year with a $1 million mortgage? Answer: nothing. Unless they have money set aside for emergencies, they’re both a paycheck away from disaster.

Debt often rises with income. What keeps you out of debt isn’t a high income or net worth. It’s not borrowing money.

3. Millionaires drive fancy cars, wear fancy clothes, and live in fancy houses.

Not according to the folks who did a bunch of research and wrote The Millionaire Next Door. According to their studies, the average American millionaire drives an unexciting American car, lives in the same nondescript house they’ve owned for years, and avoids designer labels. That’s how theybecame millionaires.

So who’s buying all the designer clothes and Porches? Many times it’s people who will never become wealthy because they’re swapping tomorrow’s financial freedom for today’s appearance. As I’m fond of saying, life affords you the opportunity to either look rich or be rich, but few live long enough to accomplish both. The younger you decide, the better.

4. The more money I have, the less worries I’ll have.

Balderdash. Money doesn’t end anxiety. It gives you something else to be anxious about: losing your money. Granted, those without enough money to eat or keep a roof over their heads have lots to worry about. But once you have enough money for all your needs and a reasonable number of your desires, the excess will add to your concerns, not alleviate them.

5. Money will help me find love.

In my experience with women, they’re not attracted to money. They are, however, attracted to ambition and intelligence, especially when it presents as humor. Everyone’s attracted to people who are self-confident, non-needy, and able to laugh at themselves.

Like a peacock, wealthy people can easily attract attention. But attention isn’t the same as admiration or affection. And even if it works, do you really want to spend your life with someone so shallow and insecure they were attracted to your money?

6. I’ll have more fun if I have more money.

When I was young, I didn’t have two nickels to rub together, but I had a ton of fun. Today I have lots of nickels – and am happy to report, still having a riot.

There’s no doubt that money can furnish the elements of a good time. But if you need money to have fun, you’re boring. And should you become a billionaire, you’ll still be boring.

7. Money means security.

When you boil it down, a primary purpose of money is to make life more predictable. It allows you to control your environment by being prepared for the unexpected.

While that’s partly true, there’s not enough money in the world to completely control everything. I could have a heart attack and die before I finish writing this, and you could have one before you finish reading it. Accept that we’re all bobbing on a sea of uncertainty, no matter how much money we have.

8. Money will enable me to meet interesting people.

In my experience, you can’t swing a dead cat without hitting interesting people. But if I want to maximize my odds of meeting someone worth knowing, I won’t be heading to the nearest country club.

I’ve met plenty of fun and interesting rich people – but I’ve also met rich people who were vain, myopic, pretentious, and judgmental. They weren’t that way because they were rich. They were that way because they were born rich and as a result never had to overcome adversity.

Overcoming adversity is what makes people interesting, not how much money they have. People without at least a few skeletons in the closet are often shallow as a puddle.

9. I need money to travel, and travel is important.

The world is an interesting place, and being well-traveled makes you interesting. But travel comes in many forms, including the budget variety. If you want to see faraway places, you’ll find a way.

In the book Life or Debt, I conclude by describing the first book I ever read about something I love: sailing. The book was about a couple who built their own sailboat and traveled around the world, working when they needed to and never accumulating more than a few thousand dollars at a time. Their boat had no air conditioning, no refrigerator – not even a radio.

What most people do in the same situation is wait until they have enough money to buy what amounts to a floating condo: a boat that’s luxurious, seaworthy, and far too expensive to ever actually buy. The result is they spend their lives on the dock. What a waste.

10. Money will buy friends.

This is not only untrue, it’s the opposite of what money actually does. I’ve got a super-rich friend or two, and what I’ve observed is that money attracts plenty of hangers-on – but almost no friends.

People with vast wealth or fame can’t trust the motives of those surrounding them (see No. 5 above). That’s why the people they count as true friends are normally either people they knew before they were rich and famous, or people who are equally rich and famous.

There’s the advantage of being judged on your personality versus your net worth: The friends that result actually like you, not what you can do for them.


Stacy Johnson | Money Talks New 

"I MARRIED HIM FOR MONEY BUT AFTER MARRIAGE EVERYTHING STOPPED" - LADY SPEAKS

We got this story from one of our readers. For the sake of anonymity the names are changed.

My name is Jane. I am in my late 20s. I have been married for 3 years. Okay let me start over again, I am writing this story because I want girls to read and learn from my experience.

I dated this man for a while, not minding the fact that he has three wives. I was only interested in getting married, and it didn’t really matter who, as long as he had money, and I could be tagged a high society girl. I eventually got married to the man, and he promised to buy me a house, car, and startup a business for me.

I got pregnant almost immediately and moved to one of his houses.
I thought the guy would buy me a car immediately since I was carrying his baby but he always asked his driver to take me wherever I wanted. His excuse was that he did not want me to drive around because of my condition.

I later mentioned it to him and he told me he was going to get it once I had my baby.

Three months after my baby was born, I raised the issue of starting my business and getting my car again, and he just waved it off.

 After six months I couldn’t take it again because the guy started giving me a stipend monthly for upkeep and I had to do something. So I called one of my exes and told him my predicament. He was kind enough to give me 500k I added 200k I had to it and started my business.

The man asked me where I got the money from I told him it was my savings. After a while he gave me a 2-door golf car but I was disappointed because his other wives drive SUVs but the man would not hear of it, he said that’s what he had for me so I took it.

When the shame became too much I started sleeping with older men again secretly. I went to my family to tell them I was planning to leave the man, but they disagreed because they all opposed my marriage at first and they all insisted I must continue.

I am already making plans  to leave the man next year as I can’t continue to suffer. I don’t care what you guys think or say about me, I just want ladies like me to read and learn that “All that glitters is not gold”.

I married him for MONEY but after marriage everything stopped. He became a new man. 3 years of marriage and nothing to show for it.

What do you think? Greed or just pure idiocy?

Ways to tell your sweetheart "I love you"

 Pick 5 A Day And Watch Your Relationship Blossom!

As we enter into a relationship, we may wonder how we ever lived life without our mate. We’re focused on each other, and that makes us close.

 However, the longer we’re into a relationship, our focus tends to turn to jobs, bills, or children and less on each other. Unfortunately, this causes many unions to turn cold and some eventually die.

 Have you ever wondered how people stay married for 30, 40, or more years? Do you want your relationship to last a lifetime? The key is to stay focused on your mate.

 Here are some ways for you to show your partner your love. Choose at least five every day and watch your marriage blossom into a wonderful relationship!

TEXT HIM A LOVE MESSAGE -Send him a romantic text message on his cell. Make sure it’s sweet but spicy.

DO ONE OF HIS CHORES FOR HIM -Pick a chore that he dreads, such as mowing the lawn, and do it for him. Watch him as he sighs with relief.

START A HOBBY TOGETHER -Sharing a hobby together such as horse back riding, completing a home improvement project, or selling on eBay can help keep you close.

PLAY A GAME TOGETHER- Have fun doing things together such as playing board games, riding bumper boats, or playing miniature golf. Just remember, if he should get the best of you, don’t tackle him unless you’re laughing!

 SHOW APPRECIATION - When your lover works hard, or does something for you, let him know you appreciate him.

 MAKE YOUR HOME HIS REFUGE - Let your home be a haven were your partner can retreat from the stresses of life. Do your best to make it a pleasant environment.

 LAUGH AT HIS ANTICS – Don’t let the little things that your boyfriend/husband does get on your nerves. If you think about it, some of these things may have been what attracted you to him! He just wouldn’t be the same if he didn’t do these things.

 PRAY FOR HIM – Ask God to give him that extra boost to make everything OK. Let your your sweetheart hear you pray too. This will let him know that when you can’t make it right, you’ll ask someone who can.

 CHECK BEFORE THROWING THINGS AWAY - If your lover has some things that seem useless to you, don’t trash them until you’ve made sure he doesn’t need them.


 CHECK BEFORE REARRANGING - Ask your sweetheart if it’s OK before you move or straighten things on his desk or work area. If he has things where it’s easy to find, it might make it chaotic if it’s moved.

TAKE A WALK OR A HIKE TOGETHER - Let nature set the mood for romance! Talk, listen, and hold hands.

DON’T EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND - If there is something you want your husband to know about you, tell him. Don’t expect him to just know what you’re thinking or what you need.

LAUGH TOGETHER - Forget your adults for awhile, and just act silly together. Also, if something should go awry, try to find some humor in it somewhere. This will also reduce the stress of the situation.

 RESIST THE URGE TO SNOOP - Don’t sneak around and check up on your husband/boyfriend, if you want to know something, ask him to his face.

GIVE HIM A ROMANTIC CARD – Don’t wait for a special occasion to give him a card. Find the most romantic card you can find and leave it in his car. Don’t forget to add your own personal message! Maybe you’ll even make him nervous, wondering if he forgot an anniversary!

PACK HIS FAVORITE TREAT - Buy his favorite candy bar or other treat, and pack it in his lunch with a love note.

TAKE A BUBBLE BATH TOGETHER- This is self-explanatory.

E-MAIL HIM AN INVITATION FOR ROMANCE - Invite him on a rendezvous with you! Build his anticipation, then tell him to RSVP!

TAKE HIM TO TEST DRIVE HIS DREAM CAR - Drive him to a car lot some Saturday, and let him test drive the car of his dreams – even though you probably won’t buy it.

LET HIM BUY THAT TOY - Permit him to buy that toy he’s been wanting so badly. Better yet, put some of your own things off, save the money and buy it for him yourself!

TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE - The future isn’t as far away as it seems sometimes. Talk about where you’d like to be when you’re married 50 years, and work on making those dreams happen.

GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT - Don’t jump to conclusions if your husband has said or done something questionable. Give him the chance to explain before you pass judgement.

 LET HIM BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE - Although this is growing increasingly unpopular, it does still work. Just because your partner is in charge of the household doesn’t mean that you can’t share your opinions, it just means he’s captain of the team.

SAY, “I’M SORRY” - Although you may not want to admit it, there will be times when you’re in the wrong. Maybe you’ve said something hurtful or done something insensitive. Never have too much pride to tell him you’re sorry.

 KEEP YOUR PROMISES - If you told your husband/ boyfriend you’d do something, make sure that you follow through.

RUB HIS FEET - Steer him to the recliner and pull off his shoes. Rub his feet for at least 20 minutes. It has been told that this may even improve his health!

MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A LOVERS' PARADISE - Turn your ordinary bedroom into any lover’s dream without a lot of expense. Remove clutter and anything that doesn’t belong, and replace it with scented candles and fresh flowers. Hang pretty curtains and find some comfy bedding. Place mirrors to reflect candlelight, and misting fountains for a romantic effect.

 WRITE A NOTE ON THE STEAMED-UP BATHROOM MIRROR - While your loved one is showering, sneak in and write, “I love you” on the steamed-up bathroom mirror. This will steam him up as well, especially if you seal it with your lip prints!

PUT LOVE IN HIS SUDS - I’m talking about a bar of soap! Scratch “I love you” into his soap so he’ll find it the next time he showers. (You may not want to seal this note with your lip prints, though).

GIVE HIM A MASSAGE - Go buy some sweet smelling oils and turn your bedroom into a spa! Give your husband a full body massage and work out those aching muscles.

PLAY ROMANTIC MUSIC - Keep a good deal of romantic music on hand in your bedroom to help set the mood for romance.

Secrets your husband/ boyfriend is keeping from you!

Have you ever wondered what's going on in your boyfriend's/ husband's head when he suddenly gets quiet, or when he gets mad at you out of the blue, or when he is sincerely fascinated with something that is totally boring? Today, we'll reveal some of the biggest secrets your boyfriend/husband tries to keep hidden!

1. He Only Pretends Not to Listen.
He heard what you said. He’s just not interested in hearing it at the moment. Don’t try to give your man instructions or talk about your feelings when he’s watching TV (especially sports), eating, reading, or has just come home from work. He will only be half listening. His mind is on other things like: will his team win, his day at work, how hungry he is, etc. He can only pay attention to one thing at a time. If he lets you think that he is giving you his full attention, and then you will want to talk to him at these inappropriate moments all the time. If he gives you a detailed response, you’ll just continue to talk. If he completely ignores you, you’ll get mad. If he pretends that he is listening, you will be content and walk away.

2. He Does Look at Other Women.
Not because he wants to cheat, but because men are visually stimulated. Getting mad at him for looking is just going to make him sneak a peek. Hey, it’s just a passing glance. It’s not like we don’t check guys out too!

3. He Needs Time Away From You.
Men need time to reflect, socialize and just get away from it all. Men like the time to regroup. It doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be with us, it is just an escape to appreciate what they have at home. So lighten up, while he’s out of the house, take the kids out or get a babysitter and go something you enjoy.

4. He Doesn’t Feel Like Being Bothered Sometimes
You’ve probably asked him to do something several times, but yet he still doesn’t do it in a timely manner. In frustration, you do it yourself. What is he thinking, “Thank Goodness!” Men do things at their own pace. You can ask your man to take out the trash and 3 hours later, it’s still there. Technically, he still has time to take out the trash. In his mind, the trash isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, and if you do it yourself, that just makes it better for him.

5. He Really Enjoys Gossip
If your man overhears you gossiping on the phone, he’ll probably shake his head in disapproval. However, if he talks about Joe and Margaret, his co workers who are having an affair, it’s not gossip. Actually men enjoy to gossip. They just have a different name for it “Commenting.”

6. Yes, He Was Thinking About Sex
Your man has a far away look in his eyes. He seems distant. He was thinking about sex. He can’t help it, he thinks about it several times a day. Wouldn’t you prefer that he thinks about it several times a day rather than having sex several times a day?

7. When His Voice Goes High, or He Answers a Question With the Same Question, He’s Thinking of a Lie.
If you ask your man, “What You’d Do Today?’ and he replies “What I’d Do Today?” he’s probably thinking of lie. It doesn’t mean that he did something inappropriate, just something you wouldn’t approve of. Maybe, he left work early to hang out with the guys. If he told you this, you’d be upset because you had a long day at work or at home with the kids. The problem is he was having too much fun to think about if you would ask him that question, so he didn’t plan a lie beforehand.

8. Nothing is Wrong, So Stop Asking Him
Admit it, you see your man sitting quietly and you naturally assume something is wrong or has happened. So you ask, “What’s wrong?” and he replies, “Nothing, I’m just thinking.” Well, this answer doesn’t satisfy you, so you ask again throughout the day, which leads to his frustration. Men reflect too! He was probably thinking about how he wants to change careers, if you are satisfied and happy with him, how he can make more money, how he doesn’t want to grow old and fat, or how he would really like to buy that sports car. Ask him once, and then leave it alone. If you really sense something is wrong, give him some time and talk to him when you both feel like talking.

9. Most Men are Conquerors and Most Women are Venters
You just told him about your horrible experience at work. You want him to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You wanted to share your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the problem. Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when there’s a conflict. You want to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He can’t relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps you to plan a solution.


10. He Wants to Feel Successful.
A man needs to feel he has accomplished something in life, and often times that accomplishment is found in their jobs or careers. Men don’t like to feel conflicted between work and quality time with their families. To men, if they are working hard to earn money, this will improve the quality of their family’s life.

Breast squeezing for charity

We are all aware of the assortment of games, bazaars, and other money-raising events held for charity. In Japan, however, they have other means of raising money.

Recently, a breast-squeezing event was held in Shinjuku, Tokyo. It was part of the “Erotica Will Save the World” event.

Here’s a brief summary of how the event took place:

1) Participants lined up (ID was required to prove they were over 18)

2) Money was donated

3) Participants washed their hands

4) Breast-squeezing commenced. (Two squeezes per hand were allowed.)

“Erotica Will Save the World” took place August 25-26. I think the name of the event speaks for itself. There were many other events such as “Masturbation Marathon.”

All money raised will help STOP!AIDS, a charity promoting awareness, treatment, and prevention of HIV/AIDS.

Teenage girl faces public flogging for pre-marital sex

A court in the Maldives has ordered a public flogging for a 16-year-old girl who confessed to having pre-marital sex, in a ruling that Tuesday triggered widespread criticism from rights groups.

The unnamed teenager was convicted on her confession under sharia law after her family complained she had sex with a 29-year-old man in July.

The man was given 10 years in jail during a court hearing on the remote Raa atoll on Sunday.

A court official said the girl could refuse the flogging and would then instead be subjected only to eight months house arrest. Should she agree, the lashing will be carried out when she reaches the age of 18.

"In most cases, the offenders would accept the lashing as part of penance," the official, who declined to be named, said.

The ruling came 10 months after UN human rights chief Navi Pillay urged the Maldives to stop publicly flogging women for having extra-marital or pre-marital sex.

Pillay noted during a visit that the Maldives had progressed in safeguarding the rights of its 330,000 Sunni Muslims, but more needed to be done to protect women.

Flogging, carried out with a cane, is normally handed down as a punishment by village chiefs who also act as local judges.

Rights activists slammed the judgment and called for it to be overturned.

"Degrading and inhuman punishments should find no place in a democracy," said Aruna Kashyap, women's rights researcher for Asia at Human Rights Watch.

"Maldives should immediately halt the execution of the punishment and take action to amend its discriminatory laws."

Suhas Chakma, director of the Asian Centre for Human Rights, said the sentence reflected the government's intention to consolidate its support among sharia law followers, in the face of serious political opposition.

"This could be used by the government to say they're committed to Islam," he said. "Courts are not independent in the Maldives so the government will have a hand."

He said the lashes were also a breach of the UN Convention against Torture.

There were mixed reactions in comments posted on the local news website Minivan News.

"This is ridiculous, and hypocritical," said one reader, identified as Mariyam.

"How many people over the age of 18 are having sex outside of marriage every day in this country. Why not flog them. And why not flog the 29-year-old man. If the girl has to face public humiliation why not the man."

Another, identified as Dhivehi Hanguraama, volunteered to administer the lashing.

"I myself would volunteer to whip this creature, as would any of self-respecting, esteemed, members of the ulama (religious scholars)."

Police said they began their probe after receiving a complaint from the girl's family.

"We investigated and forwarded our findings to the prosecutor general. The man was convicted of having sex with a minor," police spokesman Hassan Haneef said.

Official sources said the girl had been tried under sharia law which prohibits girls between the ages of 13 and 18 having pre-marital sex. Sex with a girl under the age of 13 is considered rape.

She was convicted on the basis of her confession.

Her lover, on the other hand, was tried under common law and convicted of having sex with a minor, an offence punishable with a sentence of up to 15 years in prison.

The pair had intercourse on the Raa atoll, about 125 miles north of the capital island Male.

There was no immediate comment from the Maldivian government, which includes the ultra conservative Adhaalath Party, whose supporters follow a strict brand of Wahhabi Islam.

The country's first democratically elected president, the Western-educated Mohamed Nasheed, resigned in February saying he was forced out in a coup backed by Islamic extremists along with elements of the police and the armed forces.

However, a Commonwealth investigation declared last week that the transfer of power was constitutional and ruled out a coup.

Nasheed's fall was followed by the Taliban-style destruction of pre-Islamic era Buddhist statues at the country's main museum.

Original article © Agence France Presse 2012

"True" blacks, slavery and the U.S. elections

Rush Limbaugh went on a racist tirade on his show today, claiming that President Obama is not "authentically black" because he has no "slave blood."

The statement came from Limbaugh while he was discussing First lady Michelle Obama's speech at the Democratic National Convention:

Don't give me this "down with the strugg-hle" business. He wasn't "down with the strugg-hle." That's the whole point. You go back to 2008 and the Democrats were wringing their hands because he wasn't authentically black. That's the reason the Reverend Sharpton had a problem with him, and they wrote that column in the LA Times about "the magic negro." He wasn't "down with the strugg-hle." He doesn't have "slave blood."

You really can't fix stupid. Since when did being a slave or having ''slave blood'' running through your veins signify blackness. It's almost like saying Rush isn't white because he never owned slaves. It's amazing that people can still be this stupid in this age!

The fastest man in the world: Usain Bolt set for Manchester United debut

It seems Usain Bolt's dream of playing for Manchester United football club is about to come true. Man U boss Sir Alex Ferguson revealed yesterday that the world's fastest man could make an appearance for the club in a friendly match against Real Madrid next season. Ferguson told Inside United magazine:

"Usain’s a character and a big United fan. It's interesting he says he'd like to play in a charity game. It could be brilliant, and next year when we play Real Madrid's Legends again, there could be opportunities to bring him up and see how he does."

Nicki Minaj a virgin?

Nicki says she is still a virgin according to Urban daily.She says ” I never gave up my box, I put that on my life”. Nicki Minaj has carved a niche for herself as being the rap game and really come far.According to her, she is yet to pop her cherry.Nicki Minaj says this on being a virgin. “Yes, and I encourage all my young Barbies to do the same. I just don’t have time.”

We even learned she doesn't go clubbing but stays strictly with her Xbox at her home...Nicki has one of the best bodies in the business yet keeps her cookie strictly in the jar.

Good job girl!

Sad! Actor Michael Clarke Duncan Dies!

Oscar-nominated actor Michael Clarke Duncan has died. He was 54.

The actor's longtime manager Dan Spilo at Industry Entertainment has confirmed his passing to The Hollywood Reporter.

Duncan had been hospitalized July 13 for a myocardial infarction, which his rep said he never fully recovered from. Duncan's fiance, Omarosa Manigaul was with him in the hospital shortly before his death.

"Manigaul is grateful for all of your prayers and asks for privacy at this time. Celebrations of his life, both private and public, will be announced at a later date," the actor's rep said in a statement.

Spilo, who managed the Green Mile actor for more than a decade, called the actor's death "a tragic loss for anyone who knew this wonderful man, for the business as a whole and for the planet.

"God bless his fiancée, Omarosa, who fought for and with him everyday and never left his side."
It's a sad loss and may his soul rest in peace.

What Guys Hate!

*JEALOUSY
It is self-defeating. Stay close to a man by giving him his freedom. If he's trustworthy, give him a break. If he's a cheating rat, move on.

*REQUIRING UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
I don't know why some girls are always crying for attention, it's like no matter how much you try to give them, it never seems to be sufficient. I don’t mind spending time with my girl but sometimes I think they get too needy with this attention business. Guys want to have time for themselves too, you know to play video games, watch sports and stuff or even hang out with the boys. I think if women would just chill out and let their men chill then they wouldn’t be getting the artificial attention they sometimes get. So ladies, all I’m saying is stop begging for attention and just let it flow naturally.

*ANGRY BECAUSE WE ARE
One thing I learnt about women is that, whenever they are mad, you have to be extra sensitive towards them not to hurt their feelings; but when a guy is mad he’s always overreacting. What’s wrong with a guy getting mad if he sees you giggling with another man, huh? Not that I do that, but you know what I mean. If your boyfriend/husband is mad about something try to understand and don’t say he’s overreacting.

*BEING TOO NEEDY
 Women who cling to a guy for dear life, call a dozen times a day and drive a man crazy show their insecurity.

*NAGGING
Get off his back, as men are offended by repeated criticism, constant requests and pointing out errors in their judgment or actions.

*GOLD-DIGGING
 Is it him or his wallet? How much money a man spends or makes isn’t your business, and men feel used when asked by new dates to buy them gifts or pay the rent.

*TALKING ABOUT EX-LOVERS OR EX-HUSBANDS
 This shows that a woman is not over the relationship. Bitter, hateful comments make men nervous. Who needs more drama or more anger from a date?

* GOSSIPING AND CRITICISING
other women or men shows that a woman is petty and makes a man uncomfortable. He’s smart enough to know you would bad-mouth him, too.

*BABBLING:
Girl-talk is something men do not appreciate, and chattering about your hairdresser’s comments, office gossip and clothes is a turnoff. Find something interesting or funny to tell him.

*CHRONIC WHINING:
Hey, you weren’t in Haiti. Complaining about your petty problems, or even major ones, is deadly for a relationship. Men value a smiling face and happy disposition. They have their own problems and don’t bother you.

*INSECURITY
Men are comfortable with women who are comfortable with themselves.

*INTERRUPTING UNNECESSARILY
Ladies, we hate when we are trying to talk and you keep interrupting the conversation. Sometimes you interrupt the conversation to say something that is not even related to the subject. Something like, "Oh babe, I saw this nice handbag can I get it?" STOP DOING THAT.

*NOT SAYING THANK YOU
Men hate it when they go to the trouble of planning a date, picking a woman up and taking her out, and never getting a thank you. Men want to be appreciated. And they prefer women who are considerate and grateful, at least verbally.

*OVER-PACKING
Remember the man who insisted in his pre-nup, that his future wife never took more than two bags on any trip? Men hate to carry all that luggage and many fights have erupted over heavy, bulky luggage.

*PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE WOMEN
This one right here is a killer. I know she’s mad and I asked and she’s telling me nothing is wrong.
After asking for a while she returns and lets me know well, you are my problem and she just starts pouring everything down on me, all the anger, frustrations and blames. You know you are mad and I know you are mad, why the silent treatment or saying nothing is wrong when I ask?

*KEEPING HIM WAITING
Be ready on time. Men appreciate promptness, which is just good manners. Making him wait while you primp is stupid and he’ll be in a bad mood for the evening.

Have you been guilty of behaving in any of these ways in the past? And do you agree with the guys on this one?

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I am Ify, a girl like you who also has fears, beliefs, reservations and just your regular typical Nigerian girl. This past few weeks has been one hell of a game for me. I have really been unsettled and I thought I share this story with you. When Cynthia (the lady killed in the hotel room in Festac) surfaced the internet and various new media, I was scared and it brought back a whole lot of memories to me and also served as an eye opener. Many people castigated and criticized Cynthia (may her gentle soul rest in peace). But my point is, it could be any body, anybody at all. We have met people through various social media, some have ended up well, and some have not with painful memories. To cut the long story short, let me kindly share with you my encounter with social media especially the very popular Blackberry Messenger BBM. 

I am a graduate and currently serving in Kaduna, I could have runced it, but I needed somewhere to clear my head and forget about my ugly encounter....

Here is my story, I happened to have a married man as contact on my BBM. He had been asking me out for over six months and I refused to date him. As time went on, he invited me clubbing when his wife was outside the country. I went with him all night. We spent most of the night at a popular club on the Island. I also met his click of friends, married as well. Majority of them married with their various mistresses and we had mad fun. After all the clubbing and drinking, he lodged me in a hotel somewhere at obalende, I felt kindda safe with him. We did not have séx. He touched me in places I had never ever imagined, he kissed me so passionately but guess what? He did not have séx with me. We did all sorts but there was no penetration, so to an extent I trusted he was a good person to be around. I did not know that it was all part of the plan, he gave me N10,000 and put me in a cab to go home the next morning,

We kept talking and chatting and sending naked pictures to each other and he told me nutty things how he wanted to whisper things in my ear, I blushed. We didn't see for two weeks and that is because of his wife just came back from Turkey. One faithful evening, he pinged me that he was organising a beach party/boat cruise and he would love for me to be his date. He also told me that he wanted to open a BBM chat, as a medium for his friends and my friends to interact. I was excited; I just wanted to have fun. I was able to get five of my very hot friends. The BBM group opened and we got chatting. I also realised that majority of them were married and working in reputable firm. It was fun; we didn't mind if they were married, we just wanted to have fun, as well as some other girls apart from my friends in the group. We chatted exclusively, sent pictures to the BBM group to introduce ourselves, and we had opened group conversations pending the beach party, and as excited as we were we went shopping for nice séxy beach wears.

The D-day finally arrived. We all assembled at the boat club. I was wowed; this was a high class party. We were cruising in a boat loaded with goodies. Drinks and hot babes and as well "MARRIED MEN".I did not care, I just said in my mind that I would not roll with married men anymore after this. But for now all I wanted to do was catch some fun after all, I aint paying bills. It was a private beach resort. 

Most of the beach facilities I got to know where owned by multinational companies. We got out of the boat, and went to where we were partying. It was a duplex made outta wood very nice setting, I felt comfortable because it even had a fence around it, separating it from other beach house around, so there was privacy and of course bouncers (heavy looking guys) guarding the place. I said to myself, this must be heaven am I dreaming. Anyways, we felt free with each other because we had been chatting, it was 5:30pm and the party just started.

We had drinks flowing from the private bar tender which happens to be one of the men in the group. Reality struck when I realised I was feeling dizzy and feeling really funny and light headed, not only me but other girls around me. There was something strange about it. I was also feeling HóRNY as hell! I had been drugged. They monitored us and when they knew the drug had really gone dip in our system, they moved us up into the main beach house. I could still see face but was too weak and hórny to react. Mr B, the man who took me clubbing carried me in his hands like a sacrifice. He put me down on the floor and other men also carried each girl to themselves. We were eight in number. 8 girls and 8 guys and they all stripped us down and had séx with us. I enjoyed it a bit cos I was hórny. It was mixed feeling because I cried, I moaned, I do not know how many times he came into me, he pounded me hard, I was dizzy he grabbed me with force, all I could notice was the wedding ring on his hand. How wicked and miserable married me can be. How inhuman and heartless. All of them took turns in switching partners and slept with all of us. I passed out, that is the last thing I could remember. I felt water poured on me.

 I noticed all the other girls around me too were half naked and some totally naked. We spent the night at the beach; the men were nowhere to be found. I looked around me all I saw was packs of used condoms and I ran to pick my clothes and possibly raise an alarm. I got dressed, found my phone with and envelope, it contained N16,000 and a note asking us to take N2000 each for transport.
Tears of anger and rage filled my eyes and the girls around me as well. We were drugged and used like tissue paper. I grabbed my phone and noticed a ping came in. I checked my fone, I noticed the group had been deleted, and a message via BBM from MR B came in. He threatened me that if I say a word to anyone I would regret it. I told him he was a bastard, and he said try it. A picture came in, several pictures of us naked on the floor. Pictures of them humiliating us but they blurred the faces of the men. In total I got 20 pictures. I was not myself for a month. I went back to school, I had no one to talk to, and the rest of the semester was hell for me. My CGPA dropped drastically. It was the worst out of the worst result I have ever had. Till today I and my friends have not discussed this with anyone. But all I could do when I heard Cynthias story was to narrate my own ordeal anonymously and spread the news, spread the words, and pray they see it and changed their ways. I am now born again. I have given my life to Christ. I fear men so much I cannot even move close to them. I still have night mares, but with time God will strengthen me and I will move on. My advice to single ladies out there, do not be desperate for fun, pray to God to open your eyes of understanding. Pray hard. He who kneels before God, will stand before kings and queens, to all married women, pray hard for God to intervene in your marriages and turn your husbands from bad habits and bad friends. As for me, I do not think I ever want to get married or date again. That chapter has been closed for good in my life.

Dear ToN, please do not ignore my mail. Please post it. There are a lot of things we ladies need to learn including you. Please post it on your blog and save a soul. It could be your friend, sister, cousin, and neighbour. God bless you as you pass it on. To all readers, I do not care if you insult me or rain abuses at me; my job is to share this encounter with you and save you from any mishap. God bless you all.

Innocent acts that can get you into trouble

We know the summer is already gone and all that but it won't do any harm to read these laws and keep them handy so you don't fall short of them when you travel to these countries.


In Thailand, you must pay a fine of $600 if you're caught throwing away chewed bubble gum on the sidewalk. To all you gum chewers, this could be a spoiler for you as we can't imagine how much will be left on your travel budget if you part ways with 600 bucks for throwing chewed gum on the sidewalk.

You wouldn't want to hang your clothes to dry on Sundays or flush The toilet after 10 P.M if you are in Switzerland. The Swiss won't take that kindly with you as it's against the law and might land you in jail. In case you are asking why, we are equally ignorant as you are and can't answer the question.

In Germany, you are running foul of the law if you run out of gas on an highway. It is absolutely illegal. So when next you travel to Deutsch-land, gas up your automobile before rolling out on the highway. You don't want to go against the law in Germany!

In the Philippines, cars whose license plates end with a 1 or 2 are not allowed on the roads on Monday, 3 or 4 on Tuesday, 5 or 6 on Wednesday, 7 or 8 on Thursday, and 9 or 0 on Friday. Now this is really, really weird! How do car owners survive there!

You will be running foul of the law in Scotland if you're drunk and in possession of a cow. It's downright illegal and could fetch you a jail term. But wait, what if the cow was a present that came along with the liquor and your benefactor insists on a drink? If also in England, you find yourself pressed and need to take a leak really fast, here's what to do. Piss on the rear wheel of your vehicle but make sure your right hand stays on the vehicle at all times It's perfectly legal if you do it this way but you might not want to try it in front of the Buckingham Palace. The Palace guards might frown at it and you could have lots of explaining to do.

We wish you a happy time in all your travels. Stay out of trouble.