Are you overweight? Think guys won’t go for you just because of how much space you take up? Think again! Attracting a man doesn’t have to involve a tight, rocking body — it’s all about confidence and positive attitude!
1. If you are only five or ten pounds overweight, you shouldn’t even be reading this article! You are not fat; you just feel self-conscious. Confidence is key when it comes to attracting a guy. There are plenty of skinny women who are still alone too. Why? They’re not confident or outgoing!
2. Play up your best features. True, it’s what’s on the inside that counts, but highlighting your best features will help you look and feel better about yourself. For example, if you have beautiful eyes, apply some black or navy-blue eyeliner to help widen your eyes. If you have shapely lips, apply a thin layer of gloss. Shape your brows. Clear up your acne. Not only will this help you look more approachable, but you’ll feel more confident knowing you like the way you look.
3. Wear your best outfits. You don’t necessarily have to go out and buy a new wardrobe, but you want to look approachable. So dig through your closet and pick out your favorite articles of clothing. Make sure they’re fitted and not too tight or too baggy. If they are, you’ll end up looking even *heavier*, and that’s not good. If you need to, go to your favorite stores and ask the clerks what size you should be buying. They might offer to help you pick out some new threads, too!
4. Make your hair look amazing by giving it a new style or color. Even just neatly brushed hair is great looking. If your hair is curly, you could either straighten it or apply mousse to keep it looking fresh and neat. If your hair is straight, try using a volumizing shampoo to give it a lift. Straight hair looks drab when it just hangs off your scalp. For more fun, try tying your hair into a messy bun or putting it half-up. This works best if your hair is prone to frizz and poof.
5. Your attitude says a lot about you. SMILE! Give men a reason to approach you. Uncross your arms when standing. Participate in conversations or activities so that guys can at least know you exist. Don’t be a hermit! No one will see you! Walk with your head held high and your back straight. Don’t pound around and drag your feet all day. This just makes you look depressed. No one wants to approach someone who looks like they’re mad at the world.
6. If men won’t approach you, approach them! I know it may seem hard, but the best way to overcome this is to just start small by making light conversation. Make sure to pop a mint or a stick of gum beforehand to eliminate bad breath and always be ready. If you’re waiting in line at the grocery store, turn to the cutie next to you and make conversation. (Make a joke or try to get him to laugh. If you just stand there looking bored, he’ll just ignore you.) Ask him questions that won’t lead to a one word answer.
7. If he is someone you’ve had your eye on for a while, wait until he is alone or not busy.Quickly glance at him until he looks at you back. When he does, smile. If he smiles back, approach him and say “hi”. Most of the time, he’ll say “hi” back. You can usually tell if he’s up for more conversation, like if his attention is suddenly directed towards you. Here are a few conversation starters you can use (whilst smiling shyly):
“Hi, you look lonely, so I thought I should just come over and say hi.”
“The weather’s finally nice for once, huh?”
8. Make more friends! Be kind to everyone you see. Men are more attracted to women who are friendly and outgoing. This makes them believe that you’re fun to be around.
9. Don’t focus so much on your weight. He can see that it’s there, so there’s no point in trying to make him think you’re skinny.
10. If he doesn’t seem interested, move on. There’s no point in pursuing someone that doesn’t reciprocate your feelings. Know that it may have nothing to do with your weight — some men just aren’t interested!
11. If you can, try making small talk with different men every day using the conversation starters above. There’s bound to be a handful of guys who will want to keep talking to you. As long as you just talk to them, that’s all that really matters.
• Did You Know: Certain guys may want to talk to you, but are too shy to make the first move! Be the confident one and make the first move yourself. What have you got to lose?
12. Once you’re talking to a guy, casually ask for their number. Don’t contact him too often, or he’ll get creeped out and you’ll lose your chance! And don’t text him all the time. As a matter of fact, try calling him instead. Actually dialing a guy’s number and speaking with him live will get him thinking about you and he’ll admire your confidence.
13. Give it some time and flirt. Give genuine compliments and make eye contact while flirting and sprinkle them in with casual conversation. This will make you seem like you’re interested, but not desperate. When he flirts back, you’ll know it’s time to move on to the next step…
14. Ask them out! Here’s how you know when to ask him out:
• He compliments you first • He tries to make you laugh • He always tries to be near you
• He wants to hang out with you often • He asks YOU for YOUR number • You catch him staring at you
15. If you end up going on a date, congratulations! If he asks you out again that means he likes you. Enjoy your newly found romance! If not, don’t keep asking him out that shows that you are desperate.
